How to find dates?

Whether you’ve recently gone through a separation or got divorced, or you’ve simply been single for a long time, one thing's for sure: you want to stop your singlehood and start dating again. Good for you! In addition to knowing where to look for dates, adopting the right attitude and getting the confidence you deserve are also crucial in today’s dating world.

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If you’re feeling a bit lost and you’re not certain how to date again, don’t worry. We’ve got it covered. Here are our top tips so that you can finally find dates after 50.

Step 1. Take care of your appearance

Making yourself beautiful is essential for two reasons. The first one is obvious: looking good will help you to find dates. And, as we never know when we will meet a potential date (or even, "The One"), it’s best to always be prepared.

Secondly, taking care of your appearance will also help you to feel more confident - and we know singles often lack this feeling after a separation or a long-time spent alone. You’ll see: you will feel more attractive and your self-esteem will instantly increase. You’ll sparkle and radiate confidence.
So, make sure you take care of your skin every day, trim your beard if you’re a man, wear makeup if you’re a woman, choose a nice perfume, treat yourself with a manicure or a new haircut and buy yourself some new clothes. Additionally, if this isn’t already the case, you should also start eating healthily and head back to the gym. You deserve to look awesome!

Step 2. Have the right attitude: look available, friendly, and positive

First of all, if you want people to come towards you, you need to look available. So put your phone away, whether you’re walking in the street, waiting in line or sitting in a café. People aren't usually drawn towards those engrossed in their phone.
Instead, look around, make eye contact, and smile. Display positive body language. Your next potential partner could be anywhere. It would be such a shame if you didn’t notice them because you were looking at your phone, right?

Also, don’t hesitate to start a conversation with those who are sitting or standing next to you. We know it can be difficult, especially if you are shy. However, you’ll have to push yourself a little if you want to find dates.

Step 3. Don’t stay at home alone

Staying home and doing activities alone such as reading or gardening won’t help you in your quest to meet new people. So, get out of the house and do things you like with other people. Take classes or join clubs. For instance, if you enjoy reading, join a book group. If you love exercising, head to the gym or take up salsa classes. If you’re an artist, try out some painting classes. You love singing? Join a choir! There are so many options available to you.Not only is trying new things fun and stimulating, but this way you’ll also have more chances to meet someone who shares the same interests. This is crucial in a relationship.

Step 4. Ask around

Do you hate it when your friends set you up with one of their mates, who is (according to them) smart, super handsome and perfect for you? Well, we have some bad news for you. If you want to find dates, you really should embrace this kind of thing!However, there is one condition: it's vital that these friends know you well, so that they don’t introduce you to a person who is the exact opposite of what you’re looking for.

Step 5. Say yes to opportunities

Regardless of whether this is an invitation to a wedding, a christening, a barbecue, a class reunion with your old schoolmates, a dinner with your colleagues or a brunch with the people from the bridge club, make sure you say yes to everything. The more events you attend the more chances you’ll have to meet potential dates. Even if you’re feeling a little tired or lacking motivation, push yourself to interact with people.Additionally, this is also the best way to extend your social circle. So, put on your shoes and go meet some people!

Step 6. Find dates on a dating site

Today, almost everyone is, has been or will be subscribed to one or several dating websites. In addition to provoking human interactions by taking classes and attending events, registering on a dating site will also help you to find dates. This is actually one of the best ways to meet other singles, especially when you are a senior and finding singles of your age is hard.
Don’t register with just any old site, though. To improve your chances of finding the one, make sure that you pick a site that corresponds to your profile and search criteria. For instance, if you’re a senior looking for love, opt for a dating site dedicated to seniors looking for a serious relationship. Finding "The One" would obviously be much more difficult if you're using a website that caters to 20 somethings, or married people seeking an affair.

Step 7. Join events organized for singles

What could be better than going to events specifically organized to help singles find dates? Usually, these events involve going to the restaurant or a bar. However, sometimes they are a little more original, involving activities such as hiking or even heading off on holiday. Whatever your personality or preferences, there are plenty of events that you could join.
Of course, you can also attend meetups that are open to every kind of relationship status. You’ll find plenty of them on the internet.

Step 8. Be confident

People with confidence usually look more attractive. This might sound a little clichéd, but it's undeniable that those with high self-esteem tend to stand out from the crowd and attract more people towards them.If you’re not feeling very confident right now, at least try to appear self-assured and embrace the famous saying “fake it until you make it.” Smile, make eye contact, keep your chin up and your shoulders back. Your posture means a lot too so pay attention to it when you’re around people.Moreover, as mentioned earlier, taking care of your appearance will help you to boost your self-confidence. Reading more and learning new things, such as how to spark up a conversation, could also help you to raise your confidence level. You could also write down a list of your qualities. Most importantly make sure to remember that, you too, deserve love and happiness!

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