How to Find Friends With Benefits Online?

Maybe you just got out of a long term relationship with someone and you now want to have fun without thinking too much. Or maybe you want to have company but don’t feel ready to get back in a relationship just yet. Whatever the reason is, many 50 plus are tempted to have friends with benefits. But first, what does the term “friends with benefits” really mean?

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The exact definition varies from one relationship to another, as people have their own way of dealing with the situation. However, we can agree on the fact that friends with benefits are two people who are relatively close to each other and who have sex on a regular basis without officially dating.

For young people, friends with benefits situations usually occur because one of them is in love and the other one is afraid of commitment or can’t get over their FOMO, Fear of Missing Out (on other girls or boys). But for 50 plus men and women, who are way more mature and who know themselves better, having a friend with benefits is often a choice that both sides are comfortable with.

What you need to know before you give it a try

If you both share everything that normal friends do and on top of that, you have sex regularly, it basically means you do what normal romantic couples do. So even if seniors are wiser in terms of decision making, there is always a risk that one of you will eventually start developing strong feelings or start asking for a more stable relationship.

Furthermore, friends with benefits are not exclusive. You can see other people and have sex with them… and so can your partner! Keep that in mind and most importantly, have safe sex! Even in 2018, you can still contract sexually transmitted diseases. In fact, STD transmission among seniors is a growing problem.

How to find friends with benefits online?

Having casual sex with someone from your social circle is not really a good idea. Things can get complicated and your mutual friends can take sides. You can also have married 50 plus friends only. The solution then lies in online search and for that, you have several options.

Social media

You can of course use your social media accounts, such as Facebook, Twitter or websites for over 50s, to find friends with benefits online. Send your potential friend a friend request or follow them and start a discussion. See if you get along and if the other person flirts back. But be careful, don’t rush things out as you can come off creepy and get blocked or flagged by the other users.


You can also look for online events. They will allow you to meet people who have the same interests as you in real life, which is always a good point. The main advantage with this move is that you meet the other person directly in real life and if you’re both on the same page, things can go very fast. It’s a challenge (and also a matter of luck) but it’s definitely not impossible.

Online dating sites

The best and quickest way to find friends with benefits is using online dating sites like, which is totally free. You and the other members know exactly why you’re there and what you’re searching for. If you leave clues about the type of relationship you want in your personal bio, you are more likely to attract the right matches for you.

How to be friends with benefits?

1- Make sure you and the other person want the same thing. Talk about it and if your potential partner clearly said he or she wants something serious but still keeps flirting with you, don’t go any further. It’s not worth it. You two will only start fighting over the relationship status, which is exactly the opposite of what you want form a friends with benefits situation. Don’t worry, you won’t run out of options.

2- Make your intentions clear from the start. Don’t tell your partner you want a committed relationship and lead them up the garden path. Sooner or later, they will get the facts.

3- Set limits so that you won’t be overwhelmed by what’s going on between you two. Will you sometimes go on dates? Do you hug or kiss or not at all? Do you have sex only when the other person asks for it or do you schedule things? Limits are also great for mutual respect. Neither of you should feel like you’re being taken advantage of or being poorly treated.

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