How to Date If You're Over 50
Being 50+ has many advantages when it comes to dating. You’re more confident than you were in your twenties and you know yourself better. However, whether you’re single as the result of a divorce or simply because you haven’t found the right person yet, you might think that dating after 50 is harder than it was before. Don’t worry though, as there are actually plenty of senior matches around you.
How do I find dates online?
The internet is extremely useful for finding potential matches and dating websites in particular are a great help. Opt for one that corresponds to the kind of relationship you are looking for, your age and your interests. You’ll find, for instance, websites devoted to people over 50 searching for a serious relationship.Once you’ve chosen the website, it’s time to register. From the comfort of your home you will be able to choose the profiles that best suit your criteria. Social networks like Facebook and alumni websites are also nice tools for finding a date online.
How do I create an online profile on a dating website?
Once you’ve registered with a dating website, you will need to create a profile, which is, in essence, your biography. Take time writing this as it will be seen by other members. You can write a few lines and add information such as your age, your location, your hobbies and interests, your job, what you look like and what kind of relationship you are looking for. You’ll also have to upload a photograph of yourself. Opt for a more recent one that makes you look great.
If a profile interests me, what do I do?
This is the moment to contact the person by sending them a message. It’s important that you take some time to really consider your first few words, as this will increase the odds of your potential matches replying to you. Be friendly, warm, and polite! You can also try to be a little funny. However, make sure to never give your personal details to anyone on the internet, including your full name, address or bank details.
How long after the first message should I meet the person?
Don’t wait too long before meeting the person. Exchange some messages to get to know them a little first, but it’s best that you meet him/her quite quickly. If you prefer, before meeting them, you can have a chat via a webcam or have a telephone conversation.
Where can I find dates outside the internet?
You can find dates in all sorts of places. To get a date you can participate in speed dating, where you’re able to meet several people in just one night. If this doesn’t suit you, you can also attend special events organized for seniors only, for instance, a dinner or a dance.Try activities that allow you to meet new people (and therefore singles) and which get you out of your comfort zone. You could, for instance, sing in a choir, take salsa classes or join a walking club. If you have a hobby, share it with others at a club or an association. You might also consider volunteering, something that many men and women over 50 already enjoy doing.You may also find other singletons at a friend’s dinner party, whilst out buying your groceries or even when you take the train. There’s no secret: you just have to expand your opportunities and be prepared to make the first move. You find him/her attractive? So smile and start a conversation!
Where to go for a first date?
There are plenty of places to go for your first date. If you’ve met the person on the internet, it’s best that you arrange the meeting in a public place, in order to avoid any risks. Never meet anyone that you don’t know at your own home!It’s also best to avoid noisy areas and instead opt for a place where both of you will feel comfortable talking, for instance, a coffee shop or a park. If you share a common interest in art you could perhaps meet in a museum or go to an exhibition. You could also visit a winery and participate in a free tasting session. Or, if you prefer, you can be more classic and stick with the traditional cinema followed by a dinner.
How do I prepare for the first date?
For a first date, you should opt for an outfit that corresponds to the occasion and the place you’re seeing each other. Don’t dress up too smart, but don’t be too casual either. Find something in the middle that makes you look great.If you’re afraid of awkward silences, prepare a list of conversation topics beforehand. Think also about what details you want to share about your life. It’s only the first date, so don’t give away too much about yourself. Also, during the conversation, you should always stay positive and try not to complain too much about your life. Last bit of advice: smile and have fun!